I can say that holding my tongue when upset has been a hard lesson to learn. It has taken me many years to get a hold of my emotions and my tongue at the same time. It’s natural to want to hurt back when we feel someone is hurting us first. It’s always best to cool down before engaging in the rest of a heated conversation. It’s always best to walk away of you feel someone is being hurtful and think about things before you respond.
Make sure think before you speak and truly mean what’s about to leave those lips.