Being a Dominate is a large responsibility. You are responsible for another person in all aspects. When a submissive gives you the power over her and you accept you cannot pick and choose when it’s good for you.
It’s not fair to lean on your submissive and make it her responsibility to lift you up. Yes she is here to make life easier for you. To relive stress.
You can cause a lot of damage to the relationship and your submissive if you’re not equipped to care for her. If you’re over sensitive or you’re willing to allow fear and worry rule your life it won’t work.