I wanted to share the response I got to my blog from earlier. I also sharing my response to them. We each have a voice. We each have a story and to tell someone their voice doesnt matter is wrong. We need to love each other.
It’s difficult to make a statement about love while insulting and belittling the people who share your same message.
See, the entire purpose of our platform and even our hashtags can easily be summed up by your post.
Had you invested in the message or the people behind it, you would understand that we very much know what real love means.
Perhaps, that is why you see us asking our children to challenge their own thinking and tell us what love means to THEM.
Thank you so much for your feedback. Feel free to get more involved and acquainted with our message. The point is that we shouldn’t need a hashtag or special occasion to show the children of this world love. The point is that your children, our children, and every child in the world, needs love. Their lives depend on it. And we are the parents. We have an obligation to stand behind our love with words and with actions.
I am very familiar and have made myself acquainted with your organization and the ones you support. When my child uses her voice to support something I research it very well.
What I have found is yes your message of no hate, no bullying, that love changes people and that everyone has a voice are great messages. You have given kids strategies for using their voices. but some of the adults in your organization use their voice for both sides. i have seen them yell from the rooftop “Love changes people” “No hate” “No bullying” and then from their windows they do the opposite and belittle and insult people.
You don’t know my story. You don’t know me. You don’t know what I have gone through. You don’t know how I have struggled and taught my kids to have a voice. To stand for what they believe in. And to do it with love.
Like I said I am blessed with 3 amazing kids. My oldest was physically abused by another student in the first grade. When I went to the school to talk to them about it the principal informed us parents that she was aware of the abuse happening in class and that it would only be a temporary thing. That the student was there a short 6 weeks. She was trying to show the school board that she and her staff could handle integrating. I kindly told the principal that until he was gone my child would do a half a day and come in after he went home. I could not support her political agenda for my child’s safety. Then we get to middle school and young girls are just mean to each other. Teaching them to love and be kind can be hard. Then in high school she was bullied emotionally due to her physical limitations brought on by her auto immune disease. Again I told her to be kind. Let it go and try to smile.
My youngest was bullied for over a year in middle school. We tried it the schools way which was to be kind and try to make friends. When the schools no bullying policy and tactics were not working we had her older sister go and have lunch with her. Once she witnessed the bullying she told them that it wasn’t acceptable. I will say that the bullying stopped. Then recently she was bullied again and told her voice didn’t matter. She is very open and supportive of her friends in the LBGT community. As a result she was told she was going to hell. The school again said we needed to tach the kids to be understanding and kind to each other. While the bullying and threats of violence continued.
In all of this we have taught our kids to turn the other cheek. To still love your neighbor. But if you’re bullied leave the situation. You do not have to stay where you’re in harms way or told you do not matter because of you’re opinion.
I feel that you have just done the same to me here and told my my opinion doesn’t matter. My voice is not one to be heard. Again you don’t know me. I work with and support LIUB. In my community. With the butterfly project. I may not wear my story like so many others chose to do but it is just as important and when it’s needed I share it.
I know first hand from being a cutter and having attempted suicide myself and having 2 kids who are self harmers and have thought about suicide just how important letting them have a voice is. Just how much music can do to help. How important no bullying is. How no hate is the way to live. But I also know that professional help is also needed. That sometimes music can push a person the wrong way. That feeling you’re not heard can be harmful.
I chose to love those who hate me. I chose to love those who say I am a horrible person. I chose to love those who harm me with their words. It is who I am. It is how I live.
Thank you for your feedback