I think that when you have been together for a long time we forget that our words leave scars. When you are Ds it is even more important that our words are carefully chosen. That we have patience with each other. That we truly listen to each other.
There is always a better day to be had. You change the bad one you are having now. Take a few minutes to mediate. Write down 3 things you are thankful for. Listen to so good music. Anything to clear your soul and bring calm back.
Make sure that the vibes and thoughts you are sending out are ones you want back. The universe doesn’t know the difference between positive and negative. The universe just brings you what you focus on.
We can be our biggest critic. Learning to love yourself is a hard task. When we are little we love ourselves. We learn to not like things as we get older. Undoing that is a challenge. But you need to love yourself before you can truly love another.